It is different things at different times.
In school and college, life’s just fun and friends, exploring interests, shaping your personality-blob, and experiencing first love.
In your 20s, it can be the time to pursue your dream, excel at your craft or earn lots of money.
When you turn 30, life becomes confusion because your body and energy levels have changed, but your to-do list is still long. You realize you don’t have as much time and energy as you thought. And you start separating the wheat from the chaff, what’s truly important from what seems important. And you try making sense of what life is by asking people older than you and who have gone through the same stuff as you. Your seniors, your managers. But you get to know that they are equally confused, and the rest have very subjective answers. There is no general formula to solve life. You ask a wise stand-up comedian and get a respectable answer.
Then you take a long break starting just before the birth of your first child and try to figure out what all this life business is about. You try reading philosophy and finding the answer, but it confuses you even more, as philosophy itself has 50 different approaches and answers. And finally, before you turn 35, you get to know that life is nothing but people. Family, friends and everybody else. It’s not money, it’s not status, it’s not property, it’s not career, it’s not discipline. It’s people. And celebrating life with them. That’s what keeps you happy. And it takes one kid of your own to realize that. Your cute little bundle of happiness. To realize this basic core thing. But you get this sort of constant peace once you find your thing. The constant confusion and fear of whether I am wasting my life goes away. This might change in the future, but for now, it feels good.
For me, it’s people. For you, it can be something else. But it needs time to figure it out. And the sooner you carve out that time from your busy life, the better. It took me a couple of years. And they were more than worth it.
Apr 29, 2025
Jaipur
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